We went out for dinner the other night with some friends that we had met at a Smokey Robinson concert. We were instantly attracted to one another as we are all music lovers and grew up on Motown Music. Our conversation was in between sets and long breaks. After the concert I suggested that we get together for dinner and the four of us could get to know each other in a different setting.
We agreed upon eating at the Cin Cin Restaurant in Vancouver on Robson Street. This way we could spend a lovely evening over dinner that would be in a classy atmosphere with some pampering, great food and conversation.
Ian and Jane had just started dating. Jane mentioned that she had some self limiting beliefs around getting back into the dating world and was a little uneasy about meeting someone. Jane told us “she really did not believe that at her age (47 years old) she would meet anyone of quality.” Jane met Ian at the car show in Vancouver while looking for a new Audi.
Ian was very fit and lean. Ian struck me as someone who spent a lot of time working out. Ian filled out a shirt very nicely and I could tell that he was proud of his physique. Up to this point I had little conversation with him. Once Ian started speaking he came across as…arrogant. When Ian spoke you knew that he thought he was “really something” and Jane was really lucky to meet someone like him.
At this point I thought it was time to order a glass of wine. This could be a long dinner. Everything that came out of his mouth was boasting or self-serving. Finally our main course came and we all got down to enjoying the fabulous food. At least while eating and stuffing his mouth he would not be able to talk. Okay I admit he was a bit much!
I could hardly wait for the evening to end. This type of person is really hard to be around. We got up to leave and Jane appeared to want to stay forever. Jane asked if we would stay for dessert. We agreed. Okay! I reluctantly agreed to stay. Whenever I looked up at her she was grinning ear to ear. How in the world did she attract an oaf like him?
I watched Jane as we waited for dessert. She decided to have some ice cream and appeared to want to make this evening last as long as possible. This allowed for more time to learn about what she saw in Ian. He was handsome that was for sure. He appeared to have a good career and was apparently successful in his field. However, his beliefs and personality were just off.
I sat there and listened to Ian and alarm bells were going off. Yet when I looked at Jane she had a look of love on her face. I could almost read her mind. She was already thinking of their wedding day. By the way that she spoke she had a completely different picture of their future together than Ian did. She spoke as if Ian would be so much fun to go out with and do a lot of things together. They would travel, explore, have fun and enjoy nice dinners together.
Meanwhile Ian is cracking mean jokes about marriage and how controlling it is and only how “dumb men” go that route. Ian was dead set against marriage and if you really listened to him you could hear it loud and clear. Jane was laughing while he made his jokes and had yet to realize that this was how Ian really felt about marriage.
I have worked with the Law of Attraction and EFT (emotional freedom technique) for long enough to know when someone has some serious limiting beliefs. It is a technique used to release negative emotions such as fear, anxiety and self-doubt from your body’s energy field. This allows you to transform limiting beliefs comfortably without focusing on the past. And I could tell that this man has some serious issues and beliefs around commitment.
It was alarming to know that Jane was hearing something completely different. Yet this is who Jane attracted into her life. You are responsible for what you attract, whether it is good or bad. What was going on inside of Jane’s head that caused her to attract a man like Ian? What beliefs did she hold around relationships and commitment? We ended the evening with us saying goodbye and then going home. Jane and Ian were apparently going back to his place.
I’ve met a lot of women like Jane. They have some limiting beliefs around self worth or feel that they are not good enough. They date a man like Ian until he decides to leave. Or they get so fed up that they just give up and accept things the way they are.
What could Jane do differently? Jane could find out what her limiting beliefs around dating and marriage are and then clear those beliefs. Jane could use the Law of Attraction and EFT and attract a perfect match for her. I have great hope for Jane. I liked her and believe that when this relationship ends, and it will, she will realize that she needs to work on her beliefs and clear the path to attract a relationship that will be mutual…a relationship in which both individuals have the same long term goals.
I wouldn’t be surprised if Jane calls me one day! I hope she does.
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