“Who says we have to participate in negative thoughts around the economy?”

I have had to good fortune to have some time off to play in the last several weeks.

I have to admit though everywhere I went there has been talk about the Canadian and American economy.

 

It’s been a little more challenging than usual to stay totally focused on having fun in the past few weeks. The condition of our economy has certainly gotten my attention, and I’ve been asked a lot questions about how to stay positive in the midst of all the economic issues we’re facing at the moment.

 

My reply is simple and straight forward.  When you cannot count on the economy, direct your attention to what you can count on.

 

 Yourself!

 

Now is not the time to be frightened. Or to be sitting on the sidelines waiting for things to happen.

 

 It’s time to get focused. Your edge in this economy is focus.  This is when you should be steadily applying what you knowing works towards your goals and dreams.

 

Be your own leader!

The most important quality of leadership for women, the one quality for which you want to be known, is extraordinary performance in this economy, with the goal of achieving extraordinary results. These results then serve as an inspiration to others to perform at equally exceptional levels. People credit leadership to those women who they feel can most enable them to achieve important goals or objectives.

We develop great perceptions of those women we can count on to help us achieve what is important to us. Women, who have great sales records in their business, develop influence in the minds and hearts of their coworkers and staff. They are spoken about in the most positive manner. This is your leading edge in this economy.

Women who are responsible for companies or small businesses that achieve high levels of profitability also develop charisma. They are perceived by others to be exceptional women who are talented and their services are sought after. Their flaws are frequently overlooked, while their strong points are overemphasized. They become what are called “charismatic.”

Charisma actually comes from working on YOU!

 

This is another component of your leading edge in this economy.

 

 It comes from liking and accepting yourself totally as you do and say the specific things that develop within you an influential personality.

When you set clear goals and become single-minded and focused, backing those goals with unshakable self-confidence, you develop charisma. When you are passionate and eager about what you are doing, when you are completely committed to achieving something meaningful, you radiate charisma. When you take the time to learn and become at skilled at what you do, and then prepare completely for any opportunity to use your knowledge, skill or talent, the perception that others have of you goes straight up.

When you take total responsibility and accept ownership, without making excuses or blaming others, you experience a sense of control that leads to the personal power that is the basis of charisma. When you look like a winner in every respect, when you have the kind of external image that others respect, you create your charisma. When you grow your character by setting high goals and then disciplining yourself to live consistent with the highest principles you know, you become the kind of women who is admired and respected. You become the kind of women who radiates charisma to others.

When you focus your energies on achieving the results that you have been hired to achieve, the results that others expect of you, you develop the reputation for performance and achievement that certainly leads to the perception of charisma.

You can develop the kind of charisma that opens doors for you by going to work on yourself, consistently and persistently, and becoming the kind of women everyone can admire and look up to. That’s what charisma is all about.

That is how women will thrive in this economy…

 

 

P.S. My American friends and clients.  Get out there and VOTE!  We are in changing and evolving times and we need you to vote to ensure that the right change comes about.

 

PSS Your vote makes a difference globally.

 

“The Law of Attraction and why this relationship is bound to fail…”

A few months ago, I went to buy a new pair of running shoes.  I like a good, flexible shoe when using the treadmill in my office.  Since there was a line at the store, I decided to sit outside and enjoy the sun until the line got shorter.

 

Next to me sat a couple in their mid-forties.  They were decked out in the latest Nike running gear and appeared very fit and trim.  I was looking at the woman’s running shoes and admiring how great they looked, when it hit me.  I realized that I knew them from one of the marketing groups that I belong to. 

 

I have heard them talk numerous times about their life and their relationship.  The “red flags” about their relationship were going off one after another.  They met on a holiday in Spain and were immediately attracted to one another.  Gayle always wanted a man who was tall, dark, and handsome.  Paul wanted a petite woman who looked after herself, liked sports, and attended sporting events with him.

 

That was the end of their mutual attraction for each other.  Paul came from a very privileged background.  He freely spent money and there appeared to be no end to either the spending or the money.  Gayle grew up in a large family and was raised by her grandmother while her single mother was out working day and night.  She admitted that, from the beginning, she did not understand Paul’s way with money.  They fought constantly about their approach to spending and saving money.

 

Paul loved to start businesses and then sell them once they were up and running.  He talked about them in our marketing group and how he built up his businesses to be very successful, and then he got bored and sold them.

 

This was too much for Gayle.  She felt a strong sense of insecurity around their money and their future with money.  Neither one seemed to understand or appreciate the other’s way of thinking and being around money.  The fights were inevitable and the relationship took a turn for the worse.

 

Sure enough, here they were, sitting outside the fitness store talking about “taking a break” from their three-year marriage.  They decided to split for the time being and see if they could work out their differences.

 

I just attended a marketing meeting yesterday and at the meeting heard that they had applied for a divorce.  What were the red flags that had come up around their initial attraction for each other?

 

Gayle had obviously been physically attracted to Paul and had hoped that there would be enough of a connection to sustain their relationship.  She expected things to just “occur” and did not use the Law of Attraction deliberately or intentionally to change things in her relationship.  She did not want to do the work to change the results she was getting in her relationship with Paul.  Gayle did not want to look at eliminating her limiting beliefs and thoughts around money.

 

What about Paul?  What did he see in her?  He too had been attracted to her physically.  He had a picture of the perfect woman in his mind and she fit that picture perfectly.  Physically, they were a perfect match.  After they got married and the reality of life and their money habits hit… they were not able to understand one another.

 

Unfortunately, this is a breakdown that I see many couples having.  A long time ago, I could tell that they were heading down a very bumpy road.  How could they have turned this around using the Law of Attraction deliberately and intentionally?  They could have sat down and worked out an agreement about money that worked for both of them.  They could have taken a look at their beliefs surrounding money and removed any limiting or negative beliefs.  They could have attracted balance and a strong sense of reality and responsibility to each other and to their spending habits.

 

But this won’t happen… they have decided to move on.  When using the Law of Attraction to attract that perfect partner, go deeper than the looks and appearance of one another to allow you relationship to remain healthy and vibrant.  One tip is to talk about money before getting married.

 

 

Copyright © 2008. Beverly Boston, Eve-olutionAtLast.  All rights reserved.  The author, Beverly Boston, specializes in helping women aged 50 to 55—and other ages as well—attract the perfect partner or relationships.  She can teach you exactly what to do and how to do it using Law of Attraction coaching that gets results.  For more information, please visit http://www.Eve-olutionAtLast.com.